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What to Avoid to Achieve Happiness

What to avoid to achieve happiness

If you want happiness, there are many things you can do to manifest it. However, that’s just half of the work it takes. You also need to put yourself in the position by avoiding the negativity that could be stunting your ability to feel truly happy. 

Comparing Yourself to Others

If you look at the life of others, you may end up feeling unhappy. In the age of social media, many people will look like they’re living a perfect life. There’s been plenty of conversations and studies about this as society has grown more conscious of human behavior and how we’re affected by incoming information. 

Through comparing yourself to others, you may feel like you’re falling short. This keeps you from feeling grateful and happy about what you do have and the person you are. Happiness is going to come from contentment and the love you have for yourself. If you focus on what others have that you don’t, you miss out on feeling the emotions of happiness. 

Worrying about the Future or Living in the Past

Did you know that depression and worry come from living in the past or focusing on the future. It is only the here and now that really counts. The future is something we can’t control or determine. What you think may happen likely won’t because tomorrow could shift everything anyway. When it comes to living in the past, you won’t find happiness there either. It only conjures up anxiety and uncertainty.

Thinking about beautiful memories that are now gone prevent you from experiencing a potentially great moment that is right in front of you. To think about things that have happened that made you feel good could ultimately make you feel sad or depressed because it is no longer. You may also look at things that happened in the past that hurt you. This too can lead to feelings of depression. Happiness is in the moments you have right now so remember to be aware of the present instead of looking forwards or backwards.

Suppressing Your Emotions

Suppressing your emotions can lead to disease (deriving from the word dis and ease). If you’ve been hurt or you’re angry, holding these feelings down are going to eat you up. You won’t be able to see clearly enough to feel happiness. Suppressing emotions can often lead to depression and once you’re in that energetic state, you won’t be able to make it through the murky waters to see the light of day. 

So hit a punching bag, scream at nothing, and do whatever it takes to release emotions that are holding you back from true happiness.

Not Accepting Who You Are

You are all that you have ultimately so it’s really important to be your best friend. When you look at yourself in a mirror with disgust or talk down to yourself internally, you’re sending a strong message that you are not enough. It’s impossible to feel any sense of happiness outwardly if you can’t accept who you are. 

You are a spiritual being living a human experience and to understand that is to accept who you really are. You’re not in competition with the most popular Instagram influencers. You are something so much more. So it’s not about accepting the color of your hair, your dress size, or the career you have, it’s about accepting the spiritual being that you are. When you can harness this mindset about acceptance, your hair color and other external factors will naturally become something you accept. When you get to that point of acceptance, you may find that you’re an inspiration to others. The most important thing though is that you’ll be happy with who you are and everything that surrounds you.

Blaming Others

When we blame others for our unhappiness, we’re taking away responsibility for what our role is. Even if someone has hurt you, there’s no reason for someone to take away your right to be happy. Whatever kind of blaming is going on, it takes you away from your truth because no matter what’s happened, you have a choice to be happy or not.

Proving Yourself to Others

If you spend your time trying to prove your worth to other people, you have to ask why that’s necessary. It’s likely that you’re never going to feel the way you thought you would if someone thinks you’re great because you’re not convinced yourself. You’re going to spend a lot of time and effort and yet, it’s never going to fulfill you. 

For those who are trying to get yourself into a crowd or get plenty of likes on social media, it may be time to ask why you’d have to showcase why you’re great. It’s exhausting and will never lead to happiness. This all ties in with your own self acceptance, which deserves far more effort than the empty treasure chest of being approved by others.

Holding a Grudge

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”


People are going to wrong you in life and things are going to happen. What matters the most is how you deal with the ebbs and flows of life. Do all you can to forgive the wrongs that happen to you because if you continue to hold onto the grudge, you let the negative experience take your happiness away from you. Let things go and forgive people. Being able to overcome a grudge or not holding one in the first place is going to bring fulfillment into your life and make you feel happier naturally. Remember as well that hurt people hurt other people so try to feel compassion to those that hurt you. You’d be surprised at how effective this can be in you feeling good about yourself.

Ignoring Your Intuition

There are times when you know you shouldn’t do something. It becomes stronger as your spiritual and mindfulness path. However, there’s always a niggling inside of you that’s determining what’s right and wrong. If you are always going against what you feel internally is the right thing, you’ll never get to the place of happiness. When you listen to your intuition, you honor and trust your moral value system. 


By avoiding the above, you can start to pave your way to achieving happiness. It starts to feel good right away as you change your mindset and behavior. It can completely transform your life to step away from things that don’t make you feel good. Living in your own truth and honoring it will make you fall in love with yourself and your life and bring in the happiness you may have been missing. With happiness, everything in life falls into place. 


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